It was like I'd lost my best mate
I knew mum was going to court and that she might go to jail. We didn't sit down and talk about it really. She just told me what I had to know; she didn't want to upset me more really. I didn't really know what was going to happen that day… I was fifteen.
That morning, we had sort of an argument, about something stupid, like breakfast. So it was pretty bad when I found out she was … I'd stormed out, said a few bad things and then … when I got home, she wasn't there. She had been sentenced to three years.
We hadn't talked about what would happen to me – it just kinda happened. I went to my dad's, but I couldn't really stick it there, I didn't get along with his girlfriend. So I moved about a bit, from dad's to nan's to friends' houses. I didn't like moving around. I couldn't get settled, and I couldn't study properly at school. I kept going to school though for about a year, then I just stopped.
Everything changed when mum went to jail. It was like having to start a whole new life, and I didn't like it. It was like I'd lost me best mate. I just kept it inside. I couldn't talk to no one, except a mate. I used to talk a lot to him, but, I couldn't get to the point of what I wanted to say.
I didn't like seeing mum in jail – it's not who she is. I avoided going, so I guess it was my choice…
I didn't tell anyone mum was in jail. I didn't want people feeling weird talking to me. I'm a different person to my mum.
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